How do you usually feel when you look at yourself in the mirror?

I often feel disgusted or disappointed

I notice flaws, but I try to be kind to myself

I see myself as a whole person—strengths and flaws alike

When you make a mistake, what’s your first reaction?

I harshly criticize myself and feel like a failure

I feel bad, but remind myself that mistakes are part of growth

I try to understand what went wrong and how I can improve

How do you feel when someone compliments you?

I don’t believe them and assume they’re just being nice

I struggle to accept it, but I try to say thank you

I feel grateful and accept it as genuine

How often do you engage in negative self-talk?

Almost constantly—I put myself down a lot

Occasionally—but I’m learning to challenge those thoughts

Rarely—I try to speak to myself with compassion and logic

When comparing yourself to others, how do you usually feel?

I feel like I’m not good enough and will never measure up

I sometimes compare, but I remind myself of my own worth

I celebrate others’ success without devaluing my own journey

How do you react to emotional pain or failure?

I blame myself and think I deserve it

I acknowledge the pain and try to comfort myself

I accept it as a temporary experience and reflect on it

What’s your internal response when someone is angry or upset with you?

I immediately assume it’s my fault and feel worthless

I feel uncomfortable, but I try to understand the situation

I assess the situation calmly and decide if I need to take responsibility

How do you feel about your past?

I hate who I was and feel haunted by regret

I’m working on forgiving myself and learning from it

I’ve made peace with my past and grown from it

What’s your relationship with self-worth?

I feel like I’m not lovable or valuable as I am

I struggle with self-worth but I’m trying to build it

I know I have value even when I fall short

When you think about your future, what do you see?

I see failure, loneliness, or nothing at all

I feel uncertain, but I have some hope

I see possibilities and a chance to grow

Why Do I Hate Myself So Much Quiz

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10 Questions | Updated: Apr 24, 2025

Self-hate can quietly affect many areas of your life—from your relationships and self-worth to your motivation and mood. If you've been asking yourself, "Why do I hate myself so much?", this quiz will help you explore your inner thoughts and emotional patterns. It's not a diagnosis, but it can offer valuable insight into how you view yourself and whether it’s time to seek healing and self-compassion.