Am I Trauma Bonded Quiz

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15 Questions | Total Attempts: 2473 | Updated: Apr 01, 2025
Am I Trauma Bonded Quiz

Trauma bonding can make it incredibly difficult to leave an unhealthy relationship, even when you recognize the harm it causes. This emotional attachment forms when periods of affection or remorse follow cycles of abuse, keeping you stuck in a painful dynamic. If you find yourself justifying mistreatment, feeling unable to walk away, or constantly hoping for change despite repeated hurt, you may be experiencing trauma bonding.

The 'Am I Trauma Bonded Quiz' will help you assess whether your connection is built on genuine love and forgiveness or a cycle of emotional dependency. Answer honestly to gain insight into your relationship patterns and emotional well-being. If your results suggest trauma bonding, consider seeking support from a trusted friend, therapist, or support group to help you break free.

Questions Excerpt

1. Do you make excuses for your partner's behavior towards you?

A. Yes, he abuses me because of something I have done

B. No, I don’t. We both solve our relationship problems when we have to

C. Sometimes

2. Are you staying in your relationship hoping your partner changes one day?

A. I believe everyone deserves a chance and is capable of change

B. We don’t have major issues

C. We are both learning to be better on a daily basis

3. Do you feel emptiness anytime you move away from this person?

A. Yes, I can’t contain it

B. Not necessarily

C. We miss each other and it’s obviously because of love

4. Do you believe you’re supposed to only focus on the good of the relationship?

A. Yes, ignore the bad and focus only on the good

B. No, the bad needs to be addressed and changed

C. We can only make things good if we fix the bad

5. Is your relationship characterized by chaos and daily problems?

A. Yes, but that’s the whole point of relationships, right?

B. We have our bad days but not always

C. I can only count few bad days

6. Do you compromise your well being to be with this person?

A. Yes, it’s called sacrifice

B. No, I would never do that

C. It’s a toxic thing to do

7. Do you trust your partner completely?

A. No

B. Not really

C. There’s a level of trust

8. Do you oppose people who dare to question your partner's actions?

A. Yes, always

B. No, they need to be answerable themselves

C. I haven’t had such a situation, but I won’t do that, we all need to be responsible

9. Are you afraid to walk away from the relationship?

A. Yes, I want peace to prevail

B. I try to forgive always

C. No

10. Do you have personal boundaries in the relationship?

A. No

B. To some extent

C. Yes, we do

11. Do you often find yourself justifying or defending your partner's harmful behavior towards you?

A. Yes, I believe they don't mean to hurt me

B. Sometimes, but I recognize it's not acceptable

C. Not at all; I don't tolerate harmful behavior

12. Do you feel a strong attachment to your partner despite their abusive behavior?

A. Yes, I feel deeply connected to them regardless of the abuse

B. I care for them but recognize the need for change

C. Not at all; I would distance myself from abusive behavior

13. Do you find it difficult to leave the relationship, even if you know it's harmful or abusive?

A. Yes, I feel trapped and unable to leave

B. It's challenging, but I believe I could leave if necessary

C. Not at all; I would leave a harmful relationship

14. Do you often focus on trying to help your partner despite the abuse they inflict?

A. Yes, I believe I can help them change

B. I try to support them but know it's not my responsibility to change them

C. Not at all; I prioritize my well-being over trying to change them

15. Do you feel ashamed or guilty about the state of your relationship and hide its problems from others?

A. Yes, I often feel ashamed and keep issues to myself

B. Sometimes, but I do share with close friends or family

C. Not at all; I'm open about my relationship's challenges


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