Getting cheated on is a big fear in a relationship, understandably so. Sometimes, however, it can be hard to figure out if your fears are founded or if you just see things that aren’t there.
A good relationship requires trust, but what if there is a good reason you can’t trust him? So, how can you tell if he is cheating?
Take this short, “Is He Cheating or Am I Paranoid?” quiz to find out if your suspicions are founded or not. Remember, though, that no matter what, you should always be as direct as possible and discuss any concerns with your partner to maintain a healthy relationship.
1. Does he go out without telling you where he is?
A. Yes, all the time
B. No, not at all
C. Well, occasionally I don’t know where he is. But usually he tells me if I ask.
D. Sometimes, but only very very recently.
2. Is he receiving text messages from mysterious numbers?
A. Yes, one very consistently
B. How would I know that, I haven’t looked at his phone?
C. Yes, but I think I recognize the number
D. I keep checking but they must be hidden very well.
3. Has he been pulling away from you?
A. Yes, we barely talk anymore
B. Not really
C. Hard to say. I think, maybe!
D. Sometimes I think so, but it goes back and forth
4. Have you had these doubts in the past?
A. Yes, and I uncovered certain unpleasant truths
B. Never
C. Yes but I was so wrong each time
D. Once but I found out that the relationships I worried about were mere friendships.
5. Have you both been spending more or less time together recently?
A. A lot less
B. The usual
C. More
D. Less time
6. Is he ‘present’ when he is with you?
A. No
B. Yes
C. He is but I always feel like he isn’t
D. Sometimes, he is not
7. Does he show affection in the day-to-day life?
A. It has decreased significantly
B. Yes
C. Yes, even more than before
D. A little less
8. Has your sex life together changed over the past two weeks?
A. We are having a lot less sex
B. Yes, it has decreased but mostly because of our hectic schedules
C. Not at all
D. I think it has decreased a bit
9. Is he talking in a hushed voice on the phone?
A. Yes, all the time and he seems excited
B. No
C. Yes, and he tries to hide his phone or get off the call quickly
D. Sometimes. Well, once I came in and he got off the phone as soon as I walked in
10. Does he dodge questions when you ask him about it?
A. I haven’t asked him about it
B. Yes, and then he gets this shifty grin
C. No, he answers me very quickly and directly but I think he is getting annoyed with the questions
D. Yeah, he never seems to have satisfying answers. He gets so nervous
11. Have you been fighting more?
A. Yes, we fight so much now
B. Yes, but I start most of them
C. No, about the same as normal
D. No, it seems like he’s being slightly nicer even
12. Has his schedule changed?
A. No, same old same old
B. Yes, but he told me that he has this new obligation
C. Yes, without warning and it’s a bit irregular
D. Sorta, he has had a couple of changes, but nothing major
13. Is his best friend acting weird around you?
A. Yeah, he seems totally weird, something is off
B. No, same old
C. Yes, he’s acting super guilty and weirdly nice, but also just barely says anything
D. No, but he’s always pretty suspicious
14. Do you feel a wide gulf between you?
A. Yes
B. No, we feel pretty close actually
C. Something is off, but it’s not that bad
D. If by wide gulf you mean I wouldn’t trust him as far as I can throw him, yes
15. Has he been changing how he dresses?
A. Yes, he’s putting way more effort into his appearance
B. Not that I have noticed, maybe a bit less effort
C. No
D. Not that I’ve noticed and I’ve been searching his clothes for lipstick stains
