Am I The Problem In My Relationship Quiz

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20 Questions | Total Attempts: 9949 | Updated: Jan 22, 2025
Am I the Problem in My Relationship Quiz

Relationships are rarely perfect, and challenges are bound to arise along the way. Arguments can stem from many sources, but the key is to work through them and move forward.

However, if the same issues keep resurfacing and seem tied to your behavior, it may be time to reflect on whether you could be the source of the problem.

Take our "Am I the Problem in My Relationship?" quiz to gain clarity and better understand your role in your relationship dynamics.

Questions Excerpt

1. Do you compare your relationship to others' relationships?

A. Yes, always

B. No, my relationship is unique and special

C. Well, my partner compares me to other people

D. Yes, but I involve my partner

2. Do you think your partner listens to your concerns?

A. No, they often brush them off

B. Sometimes, but I feel like I have to push

C. Yes, they usually make an effort

D. Yes, but I try to express myself better

3. Do you frequently talk about the future together?

A. No, I prefer to keep it vague

B. Sometimes, when things feel right

C. Yes, I like planning together

D. I don’t bring it up, but I’m open to it

4. Do you feel comfortable sharing your feelings with your partner?

A. No, I usually hold back

B. Sometimes, but I worry about their reaction

C. Yes, most of the time

D. Yes, but only when it’s a good time

5. Do you often seek reassurance from your partner?

A. Yes, constantly

B. Occasionally, when I'm feeling insecure

C. Not really, I trust my partner

D. Sometimes, but I try to be independent

6. Do you feel like you’re always right during disagreements?

A. Yes, I often do

B. Sometimes, but I can see their point

C. Not really, but I struggle to admit it

D. No, I value both perspectives

7. Do you get angry easily during arguments with your partner?

A. Yes

B. No

C. Only when my partner gets angry

D. No, I try to maintain my composure

8. Do you say words that hurt your partner when you are angry?

A. Yes

B. No

C. Yes, if my partner says something that hurts me

D. No, I stay away from them until I calm down

9. Do you apologize to your partner when you are wrong?

A. Yes, I always do

B. No

C. Sometimes, if my partner will also apologize

D. Yes, I also try to solve the problem

10. How do you react when your partner corrects you?

A. I try to listen and understand

B. Why should I listen when my partner is not perfect as well?

C. I do not like my partner's tone

D. I listen to them

11. Are you the one starting arguments?

A. Sometimes

B. Yes, all the times

C. Most of the time

D. No, never

12. Do your partner’s friends hate you?

A. Yes

B. No

C. Sometimes

D. I've got no idea

13. Do you try to manage your partner’s income?

A. Yes

B. No

C. Sometimes

D. Yes, but it's rare

14. Are your mutual plans based on your needs only?

A. Yes, mostly

B. Some of them

C. Very few of them

D. No, not at all. It’s a mutual effort

15. Are you romantic with your lover?

A. Yes

B. No

C. Sometimes

D. I try but it’s not perfect

16. Are you supportive enough of your lover?

A. Yes

B. No

C. Sometimes

D. At least I try

17. Are you faithful to your lover?

A. Yes

B. No

C. Sometimes

D. Yes, but only when we are together

18. Are you too possessive of your lover?

A. Yes

B. No

C. Sometimes

D. Maybe. I don't know

19. Do you feel like breaking up when things don't go your way?

A. Yes

B. No

C. Sometimes

D. I think about it but never act upon it

20. Would you describe yourself as selfish?

A. Yes

B. Sometimes

C. I don’t know. I try not to think about anyone’s desires, including my own.

D. I try very hard not to be, and my partner and I work hard to honor each other’s needs.


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