Ranjan Patel, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist | Claimed

If you’re part of a couple, your coupling has a unique signature. From your time together, you play chords, rhythms and ripples, make music, and the hope is that a beautiful melody emerges. But sometimes discord happens…it’s a natural and normal part of a complex dance we call a relationship—relating in a smooth way where we feel connected, nourished, soothed, nurtured, engaged, impassioned…this takes space, time, energy, and finesse. When you come to me for help, I see it as a profound invitation, where you’re asking me to enter your private world. Your experience is rich and I want to do justice to it: the space between you and your partner is sacred, and sometimes secret--I do not not take it casually; I tread lightly and aim to be respectful with your vulnerability and bravery in showing me who you are. It’s a privilege and honor for which I’m deeply grateful. My first priority is to understand from the inside out, your deeply felt needs, how they intersect with your partner’s wishes, to understand the grand, complex tapestry of your relatedness. This deep understanding paves the road to my glimpse into how you interact with each other. Depending on what you’re going through, we’ll talk about want to get out of therapy, e.g. goal-setting and symptom reduction, improved communication, clarify wants, etc. I also will get a sense of what style might work best for you, e.g. though my default manner is informal, direct, straightforward, and actively guiding, where I give feedback and exercises for you to practice between sessions, I’m also very gentle when necessary, and open to your specific wishes, e.g. I actively ask for your thoughts and feelings about the therapy and if it’s helpful, we’ll talk about options for it to better meet your needs.