I specialize in substance abuse and addiction treatment with couples and individuals and use The Gottman approach to couples therapy. The Gottman's say that most couples wait 6 years to address a problem they're having. On the + side, over 60% of couples who get through a difficult time or crisis in relationship because they have received help are so glad they did when asked years later. As a person in a 40+ year marriage, I know it takes willingness, patience and a little humor to have a healthy relationship.