Until and unless you really know yourself it's hard, virtually impossible, to learn to know and then to love another person. In marital therapy with me, a significant amount of our time is focused on being sure about who you are and what matters to you. Then you can move forward and work on identifying and hopefully having a healthy, productive, enduring relationship.
Communication is one of the keys to successful relationships, and effective communication skills are a major aspect of the relationship counseling I offer. This includes speaking truthfully and being respectful of differences.
Fair fightling is another key in good relationships! Still another is a sense of good humor, as differentiated from sarcasm or use of humor to hurt or denigrate another person.
Love can grow when a person learns to trust-- yourself, and your relationship partner. I see couple therapy as a valuable way to protect yourself from burdening sex with the tasks of creating an enduring relationship. I emphasize the role of many kinds of communication in creating a successful relationship with a partner.
