Top 5 Things Men Want the Most in a Wife

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Here are the top 5 things that men want the most in a wife- 

1. Understanding of his moods and needs

According to Dionne Reid, an experienced transformational coach:

Men and women share the same emotional needs, but how we communicate them often differs. The art of love lies in embracing these differences with patience, curiosity, and empathy.

The most important thing to understand when it comes to “deciphering” men is this – men and women aren’t really that different! Research reveals that, although we love to keep mentioning that men are from Mars and women from Venus, this isn’t all that true.

We basically need the same things. And the one overarching it all is, you guessed it – understanding and acceptance.

Men do, however, tend to be less verbal and less transparent emotionally. Which is why it is essential for a good wife to also be a good mind-reader. A man will sometimes be quiet, sometimes reserved, sometimes happy for no reason, and sometimes angry and aggressive. What every man wishes of his wife is for her to understand his moods without him having to talk about them too much.

2. Affection and spontaneity

Dionne Reid, a relationship & empowerment mentor, further shares:

Affection is the silent language of the soul, revealing deeper layers of love that words alone cannot express.

Men are raised to be tough and present an image of a rock-solid poker face even in the hardest of hardships. Yet, as we already said, men are equally as human as women are. Which means that men also need to feel loved and cherished. The more a man was raised to be the tough guy, the more he will suppress his feelings, as research reveals. And suppressing emotions only leads to more and more trouble in a relationship.

Which is why every woman should bear in mind – men seem a bit rough but they truly crave the affection.

They need to see that they’re loved and cherished, as much as women do. So, be spontaneous in your affection display, show him that you care even when you’re not directly asked to do so. And don’t buy into that wall he’s putting in front of himself sometimes.

3. Sex

Of course, the subject of sex cannot be ignored. And yes, sex isn’t the most important thing in the world, but it also is one of the top needs of every man in a relationship. It’s more than just sex. With the right person, it’s a bodily expression of all-encompassing love and intimacy. Popular culture has caused a lot of misunderstandings about how men perceive sex. It’s not that whoever, all the time, and whenever will do.

On the other hand, sex is important and it always will be.

Dionne Reid highlights that:

Intimacy is experienced not just from physical intercourse, part of sexual connection, but also the lead-up and play.

Which is why men seek a woman who feels at least similar about sex as they do.

Don’t get us wrong, we’re not saying that every man’s perfect wife will be a sexual dynamo, not at all. What is crucial is that the two share their views on sex and are in sync in the bedroom.

4. Belief and support

When we discussed a man’s need for you to show him your love, we also brushed upon the fourth on the list of things men want most in a wife, which is your belief in him. Men are expected to keep it together and to not need anyone’s help.

But, every man wishes for his wife to be the one person he will be able to show his insecurities to.

A man needs a partner in life, which means, he hopes for his wife to support him along the way, on his ups and downs. He will enjoy your fascination with his achievements. But, even more so, he will be thankful for your feminine touch when it comes to his times of low. All he needs is your faith in him, and he will be able to realize all his potential.

Here, Dionne Reid mentions:

It often feels profoundly nourishing when our partner has unwavering belief in our dreams, even in times of uncertainty and challenge. So nourishing it can make us feel deeply bonded to them.

5. Ability and willingness to forgive

Finally, every man’s wish is to have a forgiving wife. He might not say it up front because it would mean that he intends to need that forgiveness (some do, most don’t). But, men are realistic. And they know that every marriage is up for a few bumps along the way. So, what he needs is for his wife to have the ability and the will to forgive him when he errs. And love is in the foundation of every forgiveness.

These are the top 5 things that men want the most in a wife. If you have these qualities then should be able to keep your man happy and fulfilled.