How to Reconnect with Your Husband When You Are Drifting Apart

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Even the best and most perfect homes need maintenance. They need to be repaired, cleaned, and managed.

Similarly, your relationships need maintenance as well because nothing is perfect; you might find yourself drifting apart in a relationship.

You will have emotional meltdowns, communication problems, and arguments that you will need to fix. 

You will have to learn how to recover and how to reconnect with your husband or wife after going through such problems and issues.

Most couples tend to feel as if they are drifting apart in marriage after having a baby, so you must know how to reconnect with your partner when the time is short.

1. Test the waters

If you are trying to reconnect with your husband, instead of talking, try going up to your husband and hugging him. You can also squeeze his knee or hold his hand and show him affection.

Remember that sometimes the best things in life are left unsaid.

Small gestures of affection go a long way, and physical intimacy is one of the best tips on how to reconnect with your husband.

2. Indulge in physical intimacy

If you feel that you need to reignite the passion in your marriage to reconnect with your husband, you can begin by working on the foundations of your relationship on your deep friendship.

Do fun stuff together, talk, and go out on dates.

No need to rush things. Then, move on to non-sexual touching, and reintroduce holding hands, patting, hugging into your daily life.

After you’ve both started to feel the shy flame of passion growing stronger, move on to more sensual touching – erotic massage, passionate or gentle caressing, passionate kisses, etc.

Finally, after some time of waiting for the real thing, as when you were first dating, dive in and enjoy the restored passion and sexual interest in your marriage!

3. Take a ride on the positive side

Anything positive, whether it is an early paycheck or the warm weather, can help in satisfying the relationship and help you to reconnect with your husband.

Satisfied married couples tend to have positive interactions with each other and a positive attitude as well.

Try to remain optimistic even when you and your spouse do not see eye to eye, encourage them to share their thought and ideas constructively, and ensure that you stay indulgent.

4. Try to encourage one another

Try to search for something good, say words of affirmation. Say things such as I love spending time with you or how you are so sweet.

List out the small things your husband does for you, appreciate his efforts and list out their best traits.

Everyone needs a few words of assurance and compliments to keep them going. Be their source of encouragement, and you will see a positive change in your husband’s behavior.

5. Be humorous

Take things lightly; this is very important for having a successful marriage.

If you take everything seriously and stay worried all the time, then you will have problems between you and your spouse. If your spouse is angry, try not to be mad at them; stay calm and quiet and laugh it off later on.

6. Keep a clear perspective

Real problems are someone dying or having cancer; every other thing is just an obstacle you will have to overcome.

Try not to sweat over the small things; before you raise your voice and scream at your husband think to yourself, will this matter in 10 years from now?

If it does not, then there is no point in arguing and fighting over it.

7. Make time for serious conversations

When people lose intimacy, which inevitably happens, when all your conversations are about chores and bills, it might be hard to get it back. But it’s not impossible. 

A study revealed that disclosure and sharing your inner thoughts and deliberations brings even strangers together. Imagine what it can do to your marriage!

Set aside one night in the next week to spend with your husband talking and – getting to know each other again. It will bring back memories of the excitement you’ve felt when you were first discovering who he is as a person.

Make it fun, and ask questions about his dreams, about what he would be taking with him to a desert island, about his perfect day.

Also watch: How to have a deep conversation

8. Have a plan B

Think about alternative solutions and suggestions. If things get tense, you may want to talk to your husband and ask him if he wants to brainstorm some alternatives.

When things get tough, and you have no idea what to do, then sit down, put some thought together and come up with a plan and solution towards the real issue.

9. Walk it off

If you have a serious emotional meltdown, then try to walk it off; take your kids to the park or go for a walk. This will help in soothing you down and avoid saying something you do not mean.

In marriage, you are bound to have ups and downs, there will be times that you will feel distant from your partner, and then there will be times that you will want to walk away.

In times like this, you must be aware of ways to reconnect with your husband.

Avoid building up of resentments, couples who hold on to grudges and resentments may find themselves fighting at the smallest things.

The secret to having a long and lasting marriage is a good sense of humor and short-term memory.