Am I Selfish In Bed Quiz

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15 Questions | Total Attempts: 770 | Updated: Sep 16, 2025
1. How important is it for you to orgasm during sex?

It’s nice, but not the only thing that matters
I’d prefer to orgasm, but I understand it doesn’t always happen
I feel like sex isn’t complete unless I climax
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Am I Selfish in Bed Quiz
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2. How important is it to you that your partner orgasms?

It’s essential—we’re both here to enjoy
It’s good if they do, but I don't stress it
As long as I’m satisfied, I’m fine
3. Your partner isn’t in the mood but you are. What’s your reaction?

I suggest checking in later or another day
I try to convince them or tease a little
I push for it or get frustrated when they say no
4. During sex, what kind of feedback do you give?

I ask how they feel and watch their reactions
I share what I’m enjoying
I focus on what I want and move things in that direction
5. Your partner seems uninterested or distracted during sex. What do you do?

I pause and check in with them gently
I try to continue and hope it gets better
I ignore it and focus on finishing
6. How do you suggest trying something new in bed?

I ask openly and listen to their comfort level
I propose it enthusiastically but go ahead if they hesitate
I expect them to go along—it’s part of being spontaneous
7. Do you know how your partner feels about your sex life?

Yes, we talk about it and check in regularly
I think they’re satisfied but we don’t talk much
I’m not sure—and I don’t ask
8. Who usually initiates intimacy in your relationship?

It’s pretty balanced between the two of us
I usually do, and I like it that way
I almost always expect them to start things
9. Do you engage in aftercare or emotional connection post-sex (like cuddling, talking, or checking in)?

Yes, every time—it’s part of the experience
Sometimes, depending on the mood
Not really—I usually move on quickly
10. Are you open to letting your partner lead during sex?

Absolutely—I enjoy sharing control
Occasionally, but I prefer to lead
I like to be in control and rarely give that up
11. How do you respond to sexual feedback from your partner?

I appreciate it—it helps me improve
I feel a bit defensive but try to take it in
I usually brush it off or avoid the conversation
12. When planning intimate time, whose needs do you prioritize?

We plan around both our schedules and moods
I try, but sometimes it ends up revolving around me
I expect them to accommodate me most of the time
13. During foreplay, what’s your usual focus?

Exploring what turns both of us on
Doing what I enjoy and hoping it works for them
Getting to the main event quickly
14. How do you show appreciation for your partner’s effort in bed?

I regularly express gratitude or affection
I assume they know I enjoy it
I don’t usually say much afterward
15. Have you ever asked your partner what they like or dislike sexually?

Yes, it’s something we talk about openly
I’ve asked once or twice
No—I just go with what I think works
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