How often does this person cancel plans with you?

Frequently, often at the last minute

Rarely or never, they respect our plans

Occasionally, but they usually have a good reason

Do they make you feel valued and appreciated?

No, I often feel overlooked or taken for granted

Yes, they consistently show me that I'm important to them

Sometimes, but it's not consistent

How much effort do they put into your relationship?

It often feels one-sided, with me making most of the effort

They put in as much effort as I do

They make some effort, but I wish they would do more

How do they behave when you're not around?

They rarely mention me to others or acknowledge our relationship

They talk about me positively and acknowledge our relationship

I'm not sure, they seem to act differently when I'm not around

Are they there for you when you need emotional support?

No, I usually have to deal with things on my own

Yes, they're always there when I need them

When you're in a group setting, do they pay attention to you?

Rarely, they seem more interested in others

Yes, they focus on me even when others are around

Sometimes, it depends on the situation

How often do they go out of their way to make you feel special?

Almost never, I don't feel particularly valued

Regularly, they often surprise me with thoughtful gestures

Occasionally, but not as much as I'd like

Do they include you in their future plans?

No, they rarely discuss the future with me

Yes, we often discuss and plan our future together

Sometimes, but it's usually vague or uncertain

Do they prioritize their time with you?

No, I often feel like an afterthought

Yes, they make sure to carve out quality time for us

Sometimes, but I often wish they would give me more time

How do they react when you express your needs or concerns?

They often dismiss or minimize my feelings

They listen and validate my feelings, even if they don't fully agree

They sometimes listen, but other times they seem uninterested or dismissive

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10 Questions | Total Attempts: 509 | Updated: Jun 27, 2023