Are My Parents Too Controlling Quiz

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15 Questions | Total Attempts: 14632 | Updated: Apr 03, 2025
Are My Parents Too Controlling Quiz

Having overprotective parents can be tough—especially when you are trying to grow into your own independence. While their actions often come from love, they can sometimes feel overwhelming.

There is a line between being caring and being controlling, and when that line is crossed, it can leave you feeling unheard or stuck.

If you are wondering whether your parents might be too controlling, this quiz, "Are my parents too controlling?" can help you gain some clarity.

Questions Excerpt

1. Do your parents expect total obedience and for you to always be on your best behavior?

A. No, definitely not 100% of the time

B. They don’t really demand obedience. It just seems they are constantly bothering me

C. Sometimes

D. Yes, all of the time

2. Do you feel like you are allowed to be independent?

A. I can be independent most of the time

B. I can be independent to a certain extent, but they are constantly calling and checking in with me when I am not home

C. The majority of the time, I feel like I can’t be

D. No, it doesn’t feel like I am allowed to be independent

3. Have your parents ever used physical punishment, like slapping or pushing, to discipline you?

A. No, never

B. Very rarely, but it has happened before

C. Sometimes

D. Often

4. Do you often feel guilt or shame after making a mistake because of how your parents react?

A. Sometimes, but they are always supportive even if I do get in trouble for something

B. Sometimes. I feel guilty for letting them down, but I don’t think they are purposely trying to make me feel that way

C. Yes, all of the time

D. The majority of the time

5. Do your parents ever speak to you in a way that makes you feel small, unworthy, or not good enough?

A. No

B. Rarely

C. Frequently

D. They use physical means more than words

6. Do you ever feel like you can never do anything right and that what you want or feel doesn’t matter to your parents?

A. No, they don’t make me feel that way

B. Rarely

C. Yes, I often feel that way, especially emotionally

D. Yes, especially when it comes to rules and expectations

7. Do your parents put intense pressure on you to get good grades, and does it affect your ability to do well?

A. Not really

B. Sometimes

C. Yes, frequently

D. All the time

8. Have issues at home ever led you to act out or get into trouble at school or in your community?

A. Not really

B. Sometimes

C. Frequently

D. All the time

9. Do you feel like your self-esteem has been affected by how your parents treat you?

A. Not really

B. Sometimes

C. Yes, frequently

D. Yes, in everything I do

10. Have your home experiences made you physically aggressive or easily frustrated with others?

A. No

B. Sometimes

C. Rarely

D. Yes, frequently

11. Do your parents listen when you try to express your thoughts, feelings, or opinions?

A. Yes, they always listen and try to understand me

B. They listen sometimes but often cut me off or try to talk over me

C. They usually dismiss what I say or tell me my feelings are wrong

D. I do not feel safe expressing myself to them at all

12. Are you afraid of how your parents will react when you make a mistake?

A. Not really—they may be disappointed, but they are fair

B. A little, depending on their mood

C. Yes, I usually try to hide it or lie to avoid their reaction

D. Yes, I fear they will yell at me or hurt me

13. Do your parents try to control who you can or cannot spend time with (like friends, extended family, etc.)?

A. Not really—they trust my choices

B. Sometimes—they ask a lot of questions and worry a lot

C. Yes, they often tell me who I can and cannot see

D. Yes, they completely control who I am allowed to be around

14. Do your parents use emotional reactions (like crying, guilt trips, or silent treatment) to get you to do what they want?

A. No, they are pretty clear and direct

B. Occasionally—they get emotional, but not in a manipulative way

C. Yes, I feel like I am constantly made to feel guilty or responsible for their feelings

D. Yes, and it often makes me feel trapped or confused

15. Do you feel safe, respected, and supported in your home environment?

A. Yes, I always feel supported and safe

B. Most of the time, though it can be stressful

C. Not really—I often feel emotionally unsupported

D. No, I often feel scared, small, or powerless at home


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