Am I Dating A Covert Narcissist Quiz

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15 Questions | Total Attempts: 2281 | Updated: Dec 13, 2024
Am I Dating a Covert Narcissist Quiz

Have you ever found yourself questioning your partner's behavior, wondering if there’s more beneath the surface? Covert narcissism can be subtle and hard to spot, often hidden behind a facade of humility or sensitivity. Unlike overt narcissists, covert narcissists may exhibit traits like passive aggression, a constant need for validation, or an inability to handle criticism—all while appearing self-effacing.

This quiz is designed to help you reflect on your relationship and recognize any patterns that could suggest covert narcissism. It’s not a diagnosis but a step toward understanding your partner and the dynamics at play. Let’s begin!

Questions Excerpt

1. How does your partner react when you achieve success or recognition?

A. They genuinely celebrate your accomplishments and feel proud of your achievements

B. They acknowledge your success but quickly shift the focus back to themselves or their achievements

C. They downplay your success or express jealousy, making it about their struggles and hardships

2. When you share your thoughts and feelings, how does your partner respond?

A. They actively listen, empathize, and offer support or comfort when needed

B. They sometimes listen, but their responses often center around their own experiences or feelings

C. They tend to dismiss or invalidate your emotions and redirect the conversation to their problems or concerns

3. How does your partner handle disagreements or conflicts in the relationship?

A. They engage in open, respectful communication and work together to find resolutions

B. They often become defensive or blame you, making it challenging to address issues constructively

C. They manipulate situations to make you feel guilty or responsible for any problems in the relationship

4. How does your partner behave toward your friends and family in social situations?

A. They show genuine interest and respect towards your loved ones, building positive relationships with them

B. They may be polite but often express impatience or disinterest in spending time with your friends and family

C. They attempt to isolate you from your support system, portraying your loved ones negatively to keep you emotionally dependent on them

5. How does your partner react when you need emotional support during a difficult time?

A. They provide comfort, empathy, and assistance without making it about them

B. They offer support but may subtly steer the conversation back to their problems or challenges

C. They may downplay your difficulties and make you feel as though their issues are more significant

6. How does your partner handle criticism or feedback from you?

A. They listen, reflect, and consider your perspective, working together to make improvements

B. They may become defensive or counter with criticisms of their own, making it challenging to address concerns

C. They react with anger, denial, or emotional manipulation when you provide feedback

7. Does your partner often make grandiose claims about themselves or their accomplishments?

A. No, they tend to be humble and modest in their self-assessment

B. Occasionally, they may mention their achievements, but it's not excessive

C. Yes, they frequently make exaggerated claims about their accomplishments and talents

8. How does your partner respond when you need some time alone or space for self-care?

A. They respect your need for solitude and encourage you to take care of yourself

B. They may express a bit of insecurity but eventually accept your need for alone time

C. They become excessively clingy or angry when you seek solitude or independence

9. Does your partner often use guilt or emotional manipulation to get what they want in the relationship?

A. No, they generally communicate their needs and desires openly without resorting to manipulation

B. Occasionally, they may use guilt tactics, but it's not a dominant pattern in the relationship

C. Yes, they frequently employ guilt and manipulation to control your actions and decisions

10. How does your partner react when you achieve success or recognition?

A. They genuinely celebrate your accomplishments and feel proud of your achievements

B. They acknowledge your success but quickly shift the focus back to themselves or their achievements

C. They downplay your success or express jealousy, making it about their struggles and hardships

11. How does your partner respond to your personal growth or self-improvement?

A. They encourage and support your growth, recognizing that it strengthens the relationship

B. They may show mild disinterest but still acknowledge your efforts

C. They feel threatened by your growth and try to undermine your progress

12. How does your partner handle praise or compliments?

A. They receive compliments with gratitude and humbleness

B. They accept praise but sometimes seem uncomfortable or deflect it

C. They expect compliments regularly and act entitled to them

13. When you express your needs or desires, how does your partner react?

A. They listen and make an effort to meet your needs in a balanced and respectful way

B. They acknowledge your needs but often prioritize their own, making it difficult to find a balance

C. They dismiss or ignore your needs, focusing only on their own desires

14. How does your partner react when you talk about your future together?

A. They share your vision and make plans with excitement and commitment

B. They express some hesitancy or vagueness about the future, but they don’t completely shut it down

C. They avoid discussing the future or make it clear they aren’t committed to long-term plans

15. How does your partner treat you after you’ve expressed dissatisfaction in the relationship?

A. They genuinely want to resolve the issue and make things better

B. They may get defensive but are willing to discuss and work through the issue

C. They try to manipulate the situation to make you feel guilty or responsible for the problem


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