Am I Abusive To My Partner Quiz

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20 Questions | Total Attempts: 23552 | Updated: Dec 22, 2025

1. Do you often find yourself criticizing or judging your partner’s actions or choices?


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Have you ever wondered, “Am I being abusive without realizing it?” Many people question their behavior when conflicts feel intense or when a partner expresses fear, hurt, or discomfort. Abuse isn’t always obvious — sometimes i... see more
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3. Do you feel entitled to affection, intimacy, or certain behaviors from your partner because you are in a relationship?


4. Do you dismiss your partner’s feelings by telling them they are overreacting or being too sensitive?


5. Have you ever made your partner feel guilty for wanting personal time or pursuing their own interests?


6. Do you get upset when your partner spends time with friends, family, or others without you?


7. Do you ever use the silent treatment to punish, control, or distance yourself from your partner?


8. Do you often feel your partner doesn’t do things the “right” way and try to correct or control how they do them?


9. Have you ever spoken to your partner in a belittling, mocking, or demeaning way?


10. Do you often blame your partner when things don’t go as planned?


11. Do you behave significantly differently with your partner in public than in private (e.g., kinder publicly, harsher in private)?


12. Has your partner or anyone close to you ever expressed concern about your behavior in the relationship?


13. Have you ever intentionally said hurtful or degrading things to your partner during disagreements?


14. Do you think your partner ever feels intimidated, afraid, or uneasy around you?


15. Do you raise your voice, insult, or use harsh language toward your partner when you’re upset?


16. Do you feel the need to closely monitor your partner’s whereabouts, conversations, or activities?


17. Have you ever damaged or destroyed your partner’s belongings during an argument?


18. Do you repeatedly call or message your partner when they are not responding or when you don’t know where they are?


19. Have you ever used physical force during a conflict with your partner (such as pushing, hitting, grabbing, or blocking their movement)?


20. Have you ever threatened to harm your partner during an argument or conflict?


21. Have past partners or others ever told you that your behavior in previous relationships was hurtful, controlling, or concerning?


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