4 Things to Consider If Your Ex Wants to Be Friends

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1. Was the relationship toxic or healthy?

Has your relationship ended on a toxic note, and you can barely stand each other? As discussed above, different relationships end on different terms. And unless your relationship was a healthy one, there is no need to consider reconciling with your ex. A toxic relationship can make it difficult for you to escape. But once you leave, there’s no turning back. When that relationship did nothing to nourish you as a person, what is the point of holding on? You need to identify what the deal breaker in the relationship was, and if it had to do anything with negative aspects, it’s not worth it.

2. Are the intentions honest?

If your relationship ended on a good, honest note, it’s likely that you both would get along even after the relationship ended. If you think about it, not all relationships are worth salvaging. You are probably better off without them, but if you feel like there is something left to prove, that’s not the right intention to become friends. Your subconscious can play sneaky mind games. It might even try to stir up the love interest or make you try to get back together with your ex. It’s easy to fall victim to it, but just think about why you broke up in the first place.

3. Are you putting up a forceful friendship?

Maybe you just feel sorry for your ex and hence want to accept his friendship. But it doesn’t work that way. Go ahead only if both of you feel comfortable. It’s not easy to be close to someone who you shared a romantic past with. The idea of friendship should be out there, but not as an obligation or pressure. If some things are not meant to be, forcing them can only make it worse. Even when you both decide to give the friendship a try, it’s going to be quite some time before you get comfortable. So, don’t expect it to happen overnight.

4. Was there a proper closure?

When you are considering becoming friends with your ex, one crucial factor to keep in mind is if you had proper closure while ending the relationship. If you rush into it without closure, your friendship won’t last long because insecurities and discomfort would still exist.

When are you really ready to become friends?

Only when you no longer think about the romance can you probably consider being friends again. A break-up is emotionally taxing, and it takes time to get back to normalcy. When you are finally detached, you will not be sucked back into the relationship. Once you regain your independence, you can decide whether you want to be friends with the ex.

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These are a few crucial things to keep in mind before you want to consider remaining friends with your ex. Dating is never easy, and you should be aware of what is going on in the other’s life before taking any major decisions. Take your time and think rationally and practically before you decide to reconcile with your ex.