How to Keep Your Marriage Intact From Holiday Stress

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The holiday season can be a stressful time of the year; however, it does not need to be. Don’t let the stress of the holidays ruin your marriage.

One thing that can help manage stress is to become aware of your stressors and prepare how you will respond to triggers during the holiday season.

Talk about these stressors with your spouse and work together to plan how to respond to the inevitable stressors that may come your way during the holiday season.

This can be an effective way to prepare yourself and help you respond to the stressors more effectively.

Be aware that emotions can drive our behavior and impact people (positively and negatively), and learn how to manage those emotions, especially when feeling stressed.

Handling holiday stress in your marriage can be taxing.

Through my work with couples, I’ve identified five helpful tips to help them be less stressed during the holiday season.

By sharing these tips to keep your marriage strong during the holidays, my hope for you is to manage your stress during the holiday season and seek to grow your connection with your spouse by practicing them.

1. Create a holiday budget together

Getting on the same page with your holiday budget will avoid financial stress.

Dedicate some time to focus on working together to create your budget for gifts, entertaining, activities, and anything else you and your family will be doing over the holidays.

Make sure you both agree on the final budget and commit to sticking to it.

If your budget planning works for you, there are some banks that have a holiday saving account, and you can start saving for next year.

2. Date night in

With all the holiday activities, calendars can get full. It is important to make time for you as a couple.

Schedule at least one “Date night in,” and be creative with your time.

Slow down, relax, and enjoy each other. Some ideas might include; make your own pizza together, get some massage oil and give each other a massage, take a bubble bath together while drinking some bubbly, or curl up under a blanket and watch one of your favorite movies.

3. Gratitude statements

Express your gratitude to each other every day during a holiday month. This is one of the best tips to stress-proof your marriage this holiday season.

Have fun with this and get creative.

Wives can leave a message in the bathroom with lipstick while husbands can leave a handwritten note on their partner’s car seat, make a pancake with a smiley face and tell their spouse “I like your smile.”

Uplifting statements from others can help people feel valued and liked.

When working with my couple clients, they have reported that their stress is reduced when they feel valued by their spouse.

4. Be optimistic

Looking at the brighter side of life helps with stress management, and research has shown it can positively impact your health.

There are things you can do to be more optimistic. An example of this would be to be aware of your thought patterns.

When you catch yourself being negative, use that muscle in your brain, and reframe that thought to a positive one.

5. Have more sex

During the holiday season, have more sex!

Sex can help relieve stress by raising endorphins and other hormones that boost mood.

Not only does sex boost your mood, but it can also calm you down and even lower your blood pressure, experts say.

So take the time to connect with your spouse. You will feel happier and less stressed with more sex.

The holiday season is the time to feel closer to your partner. By getting your financials in order, scheduling special times to be together without the stress of going somewhere, expressing gratitude, experiencing optimism, and being more intimate, you can make the connection with them even stronger to emerge less stressed and more loved from the holiday season.